take things too personal? - (Mar/02/2011 )
Does anyone here also take things too personal in work? Clearly I have this problem maybe also due to my personality, or is it a girl's thing? Of being too sensitive?
I think that girls are more sensitive to remarks etc..
I for sure have noticed this before and when dealing with problems, I adjust my style to whomever is in front of me and most often I am more "soft" for females then males. But off course, some females are not like that either. It all depends on how good you know someone and how you can interact with that person.
It also depends on what their commentary is. Is it something related to work or something personal... I mean: you must be able to keep those 2 seperated.
Can you give an example? Something someone said to you of wich you think its personal? Or maybe not but that you think its personal?
I think it also depends on how old someone his. Younger people are still trying to prove themself and take everything as a very personal commentary, especially if you have no work experience.
(or older people having a new job... but in general most people, when getting older, get "stronger", more confident and more relaxed)
+ some people are just more direct then others, but it doenst mean they want to offend you.
pito on Wed Mar 2 13:22:50 2011 said:
I think that girls are more sensitive to remarks etc..
I for sure have noticed this before and when dealing with problems, I adjust my style to whomever is in front of me and most often I am more "soft" for females then males. But off course, some females are not like that either. It all depends on how good you know someone and how you can interact with that person.
It also depends on what their commentary is. Is it something related to work or something personal... I mean: you must be able to keep those 2 seperated.
Can you give an example? Something someone said to you of wich you think its personal? Or maybe not but that you think its personal?
I think it also depends on how old someone his. Younger people are still trying to prove themself and take everything as a very personal commentary, especially if you have no work experience.
(or older people having a new job... but in general most people, when getting older, get "stronger", more confident and more relaxed)
+ some people are just more direct then others, but it doenst mean they want to offend you.
Thanks!
For example, I have some experiments that I want to do, and a much more experienced person hear that, he would say: why do that? waste of time!
It is good of course that he would let you know what is a good direction, but as a student in science I believe that I am not the only one who wants to just try things out...
Summer July on Wed Mar 2 14:04:39 2011 said:
pito on Wed Mar 2 13:22:50 2011 said:
I think that girls are more sensitive to remarks etc..
I for sure have noticed this before and when dealing with problems, I adjust my style to whomever is in front of me and most often I am more "soft" for females then males. But off course, some females are not like that either. It all depends on how good you know someone and how you can interact with that person.
It also depends on what their commentary is. Is it something related to work or something personal... I mean: you must be able to keep those 2 seperated.
Can you give an example? Something someone said to you of wich you think its personal? Or maybe not but that you think its personal?
I think it also depends on how old someone his. Younger people are still trying to prove themself and take everything as a very personal commentary, especially if you have no work experience.
(or older people having a new job... but in general most people, when getting older, get "stronger", more confident and more relaxed)
+ some people are just more direct then others, but it doenst mean they want to offend you.
Thanks!
For example, I have some experiments that I want to do, and a much more experienced person hear that, he would say: why do that? waste of time!
It is good of course that he would let you know what is a good direction, but as a student in science I believe that I am not the only one who wants to just try things out...
well then, hearing this makes me feel like I did the most stupid "tryout", or my ideas are just not any good...
Summer July on Wed Mar 2 14:07:12 2011 said:
Summer July on Wed Mar 2 14:04:39 2011 said:
pito on Wed Mar 2 13:22:50 2011 said:
I think that girls are more sensitive to remarks etc..
I for sure have noticed this before and when dealing with problems, I adjust my style to whomever is in front of me and most often I am more "soft" for females then males. But off course, some females are not like that either. It all depends on how good you know someone and how you can interact with that person.
It also depends on what their commentary is. Is it something related to work or something personal... I mean: you must be able to keep those 2 seperated.
Can you give an example? Something someone said to you of wich you think its personal? Or maybe not but that you think its personal?
I think it also depends on how old someone his. Younger people are still trying to prove themself and take everything as a very personal commentary, especially if you have no work experience.
(or older people having a new job... but in general most people, when getting older, get "stronger", more confident and more relaxed)
+ some people are just more direct then others, but it doenst mean they want to offend you.
Thanks!
For example, I have some experiments that I want to do, and a much more experienced person hear that, he would say: why do that? waste of time!
It is good of course that he would let you know what is a good direction, but as a student in science I believe that I am not the only one who wants to just try things out...
well then, hearing this makes me feel like I did the most stupid "tryout", or my ideas are just not any good...
Did he explain why its a waste of time?
If he didnt: then he wasted your time...
I sometimes also tell people that its a waste of time... but I tell them why, where the mistake is, why something has to be changed etc..
I off course dont know the details of what happened, but if he just said it was a waste of time without an explenation... then you wont learn a thing.
But even if the person with more experience said its a waste of time without the explenation, it doesnt mean you need to take it serious.. But next time, we they say such thing: ask why! (if they didnt tell you that).
. And those who have great potential, are determined to stay and are willing to take up the challenge should be given enough help and motivation especially at the beginning.